Technically it was a denim skirt and white sleeveless top with ruffles, but you still wore that and walked down Venice Boardwalk on 4th of July looking like an idiot. What the hell were you thinking on this one?
Why in the world are you doing this?
My primary reason for doing this is to smash social anxiety by going into a heavily populated public area as a man wearing a dress. By doing this, my outcome was to be liberated from social anxiety and the fear of what negative things other people may think of me. By being free from the fear of criticism, I will be more empowered in many areas of my life. There have been too many times in the past where I didn’t do something or was afraid to do it (even though it was in my personal best interest) because of what naysayers would think. And continuing to live that way is no longer acceptable in my world. Continue reading 'Walking Down the Boardwalk Wearing a Dress'»
Yeah I know that title is corny, but you’ll understand when you read point #2 below.
But before I even knew what improv was, I remember seeing the show, “Whose Line Is It Anyway?” I won’t post a video clip because pretty much all of them are funny. Just go YouTube it if you’ve never heard of the show.
Anyways, when I first saw it, I was so impressed by these performers by how spontaneous, quick, and witty they are. I couldn’t believe how funny these people can be in just a blink of an eye. Without a script or preparing, these talented folks are saying and doing some freaking hilarious stuff! It was so amazing that one day I knew I wanted to learn how to do improv. And being a left-brained kind of guy, I thought about the:
So now that I can reasonably approach women for dating purposes, whether running around doing errands during the day or in bars, clubs, and lounges at night, my next level of improvement is my ability to show more direct interest in a woman and be more sexual.
But before I dive deeper into that, I’ll explain what I mean about direct interest and sexuality. Without having these two qualities as a man, a guy will eventually end up in the friend zone with a woman and never have the opportunity to have any sexual relationship with her. A man may be able to have a fun conversation with a woman and generate interest and attraction, but won’t get any farther if he is unable to show that she turns him on as a fine sexy woman. (And from a woman’s perspective, who doesn’t want to be a desirable and beautiful creature.) So that’s where I’m at right now – I can talk to women, but my biggest challenge at the moment is getting over the fear of putting my balls on the line, risking rejection, and showing women that I am sexually attracted to them as a man. Continue reading 'Talk Dirty to Me, Baby!'»
I saw this video a year ago about giving out free hugs and thought it was pretty cool:
From a social anxiety standpoint, how awkward would it be to go up to people (without a sign) and just ask for a hug? It made me a little uncomfortable when I thought about it, especially when it means approaching other men, whether they are alone, with a group, or extremely masculine and tough-looking. I mean, how weird would it look for a guy to walk up to big muscular or tattooed random dude and asking him for a hug. What about approaching a group of guys, couples, families, or girls? As a result, I had to go do it. Continue reading 'Free Hugs'»
I was at the Irvine Spectrum yesterday and was asking people for 10-minute instant dates to join me on the Ferris wheel. Since I was with Frankie, I thought it might have been a little too weird to ask just one person, so I was targeting groups of two.
Today I was having one of those days where I’ve been feeling pretty good about approaching women. When I’m out and about now, I’m actually eager to spot cute girls. I was in Santa Monica doing some work and had to step out onto Third Street Promenade to get something. As I was walking around, I saw a couple of the cuties I really liked. It was then where I got scared again. I was able to open and make a comment to one, so at least that was cool. I passed another potential cute one at the corner, but didn’t turn around and go back because I got scared again.
It’s an interesting situation. In the past few days, I’ve been feeling supremely confident at times and now I feel like a chicken again. But after a little while, I realized that this has been much better than several months ago. Back then, I used to be chicken all the time and not confident any time. So putting it into that perspective helped a lot because now it’s confident some of the time and only chicken some of the time (and much less of one than before).
But as I was walking back to the office, I thought about my situation right now: I feel very confident when I approach the women that I’m only moderately attracted to. I have that feeling of “I can do this.” But when it comes to the women that I’m really attracted to, I get scared wondering if I’m good enough for them and give them all the power. So on one hand, I didn’t want to date the ones that were only moderately attractive because I wanted to go for the perfect girl. On the other hand, I was still scared of the perfect girl. Dilemma right?
But when I asked Brian about it the other day, he said to go do both. Instead of this being mutually exclusive, go for both types of women. He recommended that I should date the women I’m moderately attracted to (my 7’s and 8’s) while simultaneously going for the ones I’m super attracted to (my 9’s and 10’s). It was such a simple and easy answer, I wonder why I didn’t think of it. Makes sense to learn to date and get comfortable with women in general while I build my experience and confidence during the process.
So by the time I got back to the office, I was both enlightened and frustrated. I’m glad I had my epiphany, but wasn’t satisfied that I didn’t really go for those two other girls I saw. After a little while, I knew what I had to do. Continue reading 'Spilling My Guts and Being Vulnerable'»
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Technically it was a denim skirt and white sleeveless top with ruffles, but you still wore that and walked down Venice Boardwalk on 4th of July looking like an idiot. What the hell were you thinking on this one?
So now that I can reasonably approach women for dating purposes, whether running around doing errands during the day or in bars, clubs, and lounges at night, my next level of improvement is my ability to show more direct interest in a woman and be more sexual.
I was at the Irvine Spectrum yesterday and was asking people for 10-minute instant dates to join me on the Ferris wheel. Since I was with Frankie, I thought it might have been a little too weird to ask just one person, so I was targeting groups of two.
