For years, one of the things I’ve always been scared of is dance clubs. Never mind the socializing aspect – that was another issue. The dancing part terrified me the most. My big fear was looking stupid.
It wasn’t until earlier this year that I finally decided to do something about it. I first noticed at my local 24 Hour Fitness gym that they offered free hip hop dance classes as part of my membership. It wasn’t freestyle stuff for the club, but it was a start learning rhythm and choreography. So I began going to the classes and fell in love with the style and personality of my instructor, Tiffaney Boyd.
Soon after, I began taking private lessons from her. After my first 1-hour lesson, she thought I needed about 19 more lessons in order to be dope (I only signed up for 10). At least she’s honest. Anyways, this is some footage from some of our lessons together. She’s teaching the Pac-Man (one of my favorite moves), basic body rocking, and puppeting. Isn’t she adorable?
Technically it was a denim skirt and white sleeveless top with ruffles, but you still wore that and walked down Venice Boardwalk on 4th of July looking like an idiot. What the hell were you thinking on this one?
Why in the world are you doing this?
My primary reason for doing this is to smash social anxiety by going into a heavily populated public area as a man wearing a dress. By doing this, my outcome was to be liberated from social anxiety and the fear of what negative things other people may think of me. By being free from the fear of criticism, I will be more empowered in many areas of my life. There have been too many times in the past where I didn’t do something or was afraid to do it (even though it was in my personal best interest) because of what naysayers would think. And continuing to live that way is no longer acceptable in my world. Continue reading 'Walking Down the Boardwalk Wearing a Dress'»
Yeah I know that title is corny, but you’ll understand when you read point #2 below.
But before I even knew what improv was, I remember seeing the show, “Whose Line Is It Anyway?” I won’t post a video clip because pretty much all of them are funny. Just go YouTube it if you’ve never heard of the show.
Anyways, when I first saw it, I was so impressed by these performers by how spontaneous, quick, and witty they are. I couldn’t believe how funny these people can be in just a blink of an eye. Without a script or preparing, these talented folks are saying and doing some freaking hilarious stuff! It was so amazing that one day I knew I wanted to learn how to do improv. And being a left-brained kind of guy, I thought about the:
So now that I can reasonably approach women for dating purposes, whether running around doing errands during the day or in bars, clubs, and lounges at night, my next level of improvement is my ability to show more direct interest in a woman and be more sexual.
But before I dive deeper into that, I’ll explain what I mean about direct interest and sexuality. Without having these two qualities as a man, a guy will eventually end up in the friend zone with a woman and never have the opportunity to have any sexual relationship with her. A man may be able to have a fun conversation with a woman and generate interest and attraction, but won’t get any farther if he is unable to show that she turns him on as a fine sexy woman. (And from a woman’s perspective, who doesn’t want to be a desirable and beautiful creature.) So that’s where I’m at right now – I can talk to women, but my biggest challenge at the moment is getting over the fear of putting my balls on the line, risking rejection, and showing women that I am sexually attracted to them as a man. Continue reading 'Talk Dirty to Me, Baby!'»
I saw this video a year ago about giving out free hugs and thought it was pretty cool:
From a social anxiety standpoint, how awkward would it be to go up to people (without a sign) and just ask for a hug? It made me a little uncomfortable when I thought about it, especially when it means approaching other men, whether they are alone, with a group, or extremely masculine and tough-looking. I mean, how weird would it look for a guy to walk up to big muscular or tattooed random dude and asking him for a hug. What about approaching a group of guys, couples, families, or girls? As a result, I had to go do it. Continue reading 'Free Hugs'»
Today I was at the supermarket with my gal pal and we were buying some pie crust for our cookoff tonight. (I made my cauliflower and zucchini soup, quinoa vegetable salad, and hemp milk pudding and she made her delicious apple pie with whip cream and vanilla bean ice cream.) We only had 3 items, so we got into the express lane at Ralphs:
Cashier: Do you have a Ralphs’ card? Me: No. I don’t have mine today. Can I use yours? Cashier: Do you have a phone number? Me: No. I don’t have card. Can I use yours? Cashier:[Hesitates, but eventually uses hers.]
Cashier: That’ll be $8.97. Me: OK. [I reach into my two pockets, one on each side of my cargo shorts, pull out two fistfuls of change and throw them onto the counter. A few coins fall down to the ground. By this time, there were 3 people in line behind me.] Let’s see…1, 2, 3, 4, 5,…[counting the pennies]…28, 29… Continue reading 'Hold On. I Have Change.'»
I was at PetSmart today and had one of these spur of the moment things. I was at the register buying a new doggie chew toy and the cashier was ringing me up. When she finished, a customer had just walked in and asked her a question. To help the customer, the cashier walked away from the cash register. All of a sudden, the phone was ringing.
Me:[Thinking to myself] Hey, the phone’s ringing and she walked away. No one’s answering it. I wonder what would happen if I picked up the phone and answered it. That would be weird and a little uncomfortable. Oh shit…it’s uncomfortable. I should do it!Continue reading 'Answering the Phone'»
I’ve noticed that when I’m at a stoplight in my car and start looking around at the drivers, most of them are looking forward in this dazed look and would rarely make eye contact with me. Once in a while you catch them, but their eyes quickly dart away. So today, I’m going to start working on getting eye contact with drivers and holding it long enough until they are the first ones to break.
I was at the Irvine Spectrum yesterday and was asking people for 10-minute instant dates to join me on the Ferris wheel. Since I was with Frankie, I thought it might have been a little too weird to ask just one person, so I was targeting groups of two.
One of the main concepts of I’ve learned from Inner Confidence is the importance of the ability to manage tension. Being a man who is solid and unfazed in the depths of a tense situation is immensely attractive to women. Examples could be something simple like how you handle a “no” from a woman to how you respond to a car accident. Are you flustered and discombobulated or are you calm, cool, and collected.
Firemen are prime examples of men that can manage tension. What they do for a living is run into dangerous burning buildings and rescue women and children. As a man, I appreciate, admire, and respect what firemen can do. From a woman’s perspective, firemen are HOT! Continue reading 'Managing and NOT Releasing Tension'»
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For years, one of the things I’ve always been scared of is dance clubs. Never mind the socializing aspect – that was another issue. The dancing part terrified me the most. My big fear was looking stupid.
So now that I can reasonably approach women for dating purposes, whether running around doing errands during the day or in bars, clubs, and lounges at night, my next level of improvement is my ability to show more direct interest in a woman and be more sexual.
Today I was at the supermarket with my gal pal and we were buying some pie crust for our cookoff tonight. (I made my cauliflower and zucchini soup, quinoa vegetable salad, and hemp milk pudding and she made her delicious apple pie with whip cream and vanilla bean ice cream.) We only had 3 items, so we got into the express lane at Ralphs:
I was at PetSmart today and had one of these spur of the moment things. I was at the register buying a new doggie chew toy and the cashier was ringing me up. When she finished, a customer had just walked in and asked her a question. To help the customer, the cashier walked away from the cash register. All of a sudden, the phone was ringing.
I’ve noticed that when I’m at a stoplight in my car and start looking around at the drivers, most of them are looking forward in this dazed look and would rarely make eye contact with me. Once in a while you catch them, but their eyes quickly dart away. So today, I’m going to start working on getting eye contact with drivers and holding it long enough until they are the first ones to break.
I was at the Irvine Spectrum yesterday and was asking people for 10-minute instant dates to join me on the Ferris wheel. Since I was with Frankie, I thought it might have been a little too weird to ask just one person, so I was targeting groups of two.
One of the main concepts of I’ve learned from 