Technically it was a denim skirt and white sleeveless top with ruffles, but you still wore that and walked down Venice Boardwalk on 4th of July looking like an idiot. What the hell were you thinking on this one?
Why in the world are you doing this?
My primary reason for doing this is to smash social anxiety by going into a heavily populated public area as a man wearing a dress. By doing this, my outcome was to be liberated from social anxiety and the fear of what negative things other people may think of me. By being free from the fear of criticism, I will be more empowered in many areas of my life. There have been too many times in the past where I didn’t do something or was afraid to do it (even though it was in my personal best interest) because of what naysayers would think. And continuing to live that way is no longer acceptable in my world. Continue reading 'Walking Down the Boardwalk Wearing a Dress'»
Today I was at the supermarket with my gal pal and we were buying some pie crust for our cookoff tonight. (I made my cauliflower and zucchini soup, quinoa vegetable salad, and hemp milk pudding and she made her delicious apple pie with whip cream and vanilla bean ice cream.) We only had 3 items, so we got into the express lane at Ralphs:
Cashier: Do you have a Ralphs’ card?
Me: No. I don’t have mine today. Can I use yours?
Cashier: Do you have a phone number?
Me: No. I don’t have card. Can I use yours?
Cashier: [Hesitates, but eventually uses hers.]
Cashier: That’ll be $8.97.
Me: OK. [I reach into my two pockets, one on each side of my cargo shorts, pull out two fistfuls of change and throw them onto the counter. A few coins fall down to the ground. By this time, there were 3 people in line behind me.] Let’s see…1, 2, 3, 4, 5,…[counting the pennies]…28, 29… Continue reading 'Hold On. I Have Change.'»
I was at PetSmart today and had one of these spur of the moment things. I was at the register buying a new doggie chew toy and the cashier was ringing me up. When she finished, a customer had just walked in and asked her a question. To help the customer, the cashier walked away from the cash register. All of a sudden, the phone was ringing.
Me: [Thinking to myself] Hey, the phone’s ringing and she walked away. No one’s answering it. I wonder what would happen if I picked up the phone and answered it. That would be weird and a little uncomfortable. Oh shit…it’s uncomfortable. I should do it! Continue reading 'Answering the Phone'»
I’ve noticed that when I’m at a stoplight in my car and start looking around at the drivers, most of them are looking forward in this dazed look and would rarely make eye contact with me. Once in a while you catch them, but their eyes quickly dart away. So today, I’m going to start working on getting eye contact with drivers and holding it long enough until they are the first ones to break.
Since visualization is such a powerful mental tool, Continue reading 'Eye Contact With Drivers'»
One of the main concepts of I’ve learned from Inner Confidence is the importance of the ability to manage tension. Being a man who is solid and unfazed in the depths of a tense situation is immensely attractive to women. Examples could be something simple like how you handle a “no” from a woman to how you respond to a car accident. Are you flustered and discombobulated or are you calm, cool, and collected.
Firemen are prime examples of men that can manage tension. What they do for a living is run into dangerous burning buildings and rescue women and children. As a man, I appreciate, admire, and respect what firemen can do. From a woman’s perspective, firemen are HOT! Continue reading 'Managing and NOT Releasing Tension'»
I was driving home one night and I remember the Inner Confidence guys suggesting an exercise to manage conflict is to go buy something and return it. So I’m on the way home and see a CVS Pharmacy. Let’s go in and see what I could find.
I walk into the store and knew that I had to buy something that I don’t need because that will force me to return it. I know, let’s go get some tampons. As I’m walking in, there’s a line here too, so this is going to be weird if people are watching.
Anyways, I finally found the feminine care aisle and picked up a box of tampons. By the time I get to the cashier, thank goodness all those 7 people in line when I walked in are finally gone. I walked up to the register and an older woman named Norma in her 50s or 60s rings me up.
Norma: That’ll be $4.25.
Me: Here’s a $5.
Norma: I don’t have any quarters, so here’s a quarter and some dimes.
Me: OK. By the way, I don’t need that bag, thanks [because I'm going to come back and return it].
I grabbed my receipt, change, and tampons and take 3 steps to leave. On the third step, I pause, turn around, and then walk back to the counter. Continue reading 'Don’t Need Tampons'»
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